Isn't it wrong that my fiance won't let me invite my hair-dresser to our wedding just because he's gay?

I've been going to the same guy for about 5 yrs. to do my hair and yes he's gay and no I don't encourage it but he's funny as heck and very nice. My fiance said he can not come to the wedding or his boyfriend. (They've been together for 30 yrs.) My fiance said God would frown on us at our church wedding and it would be way to embarassing at the reception too. I want him to come though. What are some of your thoughts?Isn't it wrong that my fiance won't let me invite my hair-dresser to our wedding just because he's gay?
I understand both sides. I don't support homosexual lifestyle but have several acquaintances that are homosexual. Honestly, I understand both of your points. You need to decide what is more important to you; having a Godly ceremony that the man you want to spend your life with is comfortable with, or having your hairdresser at your wedding. I really wouldn't argue either. I don't see this as a control issue with your fiance; I see it as a religious conviction on his part. You either respect it or you don't... but this is going to branch out toward many more religious confrontations if you two aren't on the same spiritual track. Put thought into that.Isn't it wrong that my fiance won't let me invite my hair-dresser to our wedding just because he's gay?
Marriage is about compromise and commitment, not ideology. This has nothing to do with the hairdresser. It has to do with you and your future husband. Don't listen to the people who are turning the question into a referendum on homosexuality and politically correct thought.





How important is it to have the hairdresser there? Important enough to upset your husband? I wouldn't think so. Besides, it sounds silly, if you really think about it, to ruin a wedding day over something like this.





Do the smart thing, tell your husband you will respect his wishes, though they conflict with yours. If he is a man worth marrying, he will do the same for you, when something comes up that you feel strongly about. It will give you something to trade on in the future, if nothing else.
Yes ... invite the guy ..... Tell the boyfriend to get over being jealous ....
My hackles would be up. I've been married %26amp; divorced %26amp; now in a happy healthy relationship. It's both your %26amp; his wedding. You should be able to compromise. If this person is important on your invite list he should be able to open his heart to your wishes. Remind him that your friends sexuality %26amp; lifestyle does not reflect on his beliefs. It shouldn't embarrass him that you know someone who lives differently than he chooses to live. If the person is happy for you then it doesn't matter. My belief in God says that even the smallest of creatures belongs to him - so your friend being gay is still loved by God %26amp; welcomed into his arms %26amp; the church! My belief in God is love for all. If your fiance is concerned about others beliefs, it is a natural response. I would suggest if anyone questions him he can say it is one of your friends %26amp; if it makes you happy he is happy. That leaves him neutral %26amp; no one can take issue. (It's their issue not yours or your fiance's). Hope you can work it out!
Since your fiance is fearful of inviting a gay because of God frowning, you should probably also not invite any adulterers, thieves, drunks, drug users, people of other religions or denominations or traffic signal violators. I mean, really, if he's narrow minded on gays, why should he be accepting of the other groups? I'm going to say the marrige has signs already of not lasting too long.
My thought is that you're in for a crappy marriage with Rush Limbaugh Jr. over there....
most of the gay people are fun, but listen to your man....
Honestly I would truly wonder if i would wish to marry such a man who had such a diffrent opinon than I
let him come!your husband is narrow minded thats all!
Seems like you've got two options


1. You get married and don't have him there.


2. You don't get married, but at least you'll have stuck up for your friend. (Going for this option, the fiance might change his mind)
personally i think your fiance is wrong, but thats my personal opinion on homosexuals and has nothing to do with your question really...





you need to explain to your future husband that your hairdresser is your friend, regardless of his sexuality. so really being gay has nothing to do with it, and if you want your friend to come then they should be allowed to.





if he really believes in God then he respects everyone and treats everyone equally. and yes, that does include gays.





keep calm when youre arguing your point, even he gets angry. this will make you look like the maturer person who's point is more valid, and youre more likely to get your way.





good luck! have a lovely wedding!


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I really hope that you and your fianc茅 are on the same page when it comes to not being bias about people that are gay, or even having friends that are gay. This hairdresser of yours sounds like a really nice guy, and you've formed a relationship with him that is positive to you, so you have every right to want him to be at your wedding. As far as your husband goes, it sounds like he doesn鈥檛 want this guy there because of one very trivial thing; his sexual orientation. Now I can't say that this is wrong, because a lot of people share your husband鈥檚 viewpoint against same sex marriages. But, as far as accepting people for who they are, and not what their sexual orientation is, is a completely different thing. From my standpoint, your fianc茅 is being extremely bias, and is holding himself above your friend just because he is different. I hate to break it to your future mate, but in order to really get along in life and live to happiest extent possible, he is going to have to start excepting how people are, especially your friends. If he has a problem with it, then tell him to get over himself and suck it up. Who cares what religion you are, it's no excuse to be rude, disrespectful, and arrogant to anyone, no matter if they love the same sex or trees for that matter. Invite your friend, if your fianc茅 has a problem, then just tell him to stuff it. Good luck, and I really hope things go alright.
Obviously your fiance and you have very different views regarding homosexuals. But your wedding is not the time and place for the two of you to settle that difference. Let it go. Afterwards, bring it up again and show him everyone deserves to be happy. And that is just what homosexuals are doing, trying to be happy, just like the rest of us. We are really not that different from them.
Some people just dont like homosexuals. If you fiancee is by the bible then he is doing the righh thing. He thinks homosexuality is unnatural, and you are just gonna have to go along with it. Its his call.
Homophobia is not big or clever. Your fiance is simply close minded (does he also make you cook and clean?).





The problem here is that the section of the bible that says homosexuality should not be encouraged (or does it say ';Burn them! Burn them all!';, I forget now) is also the section where it says you can't eat shellfish, most meat, and certain vegetables. Look it up, tell your boyfriend to read it and you will find that this is true.





So tell him you can have gays and pie or you can have a nice god-fearing wedding but just peas. That's right, just peas! Imagine it.





Seriously though, he needs to take a look at his beliefs, God loves all and that includes gay people. I am not religious, nor am I gay, but it seems I have a better grasp of Catholicism than your boyfriend, his beliefs do not stand up to scrutiny. Give me 5 minutes in a darkened room with him and he'd be setting up a gay support group.





Have a word, these are your friends first and just happen to be gay. It's just a thing, like brown hair, it makes no difference whatsoever. And contrary to popular belief, homosexuality is not contagious.
If you can't sway your fiance concerning the wedding, ask him how he feels about inviting them to the Reception. He should have no problem there, if he does, maybe you should consider what you're getting into.
Let him come....
Tell him God loves all his children and that they are your friends and if anyone has a problem with your friends, then the people who have a problem can just leave. I bet he has a few people that you wouldn't want invited, but you are still letting him because it's his wedding too.
Sweety God does not exist, and even if he did why would you worship something that exiles a whole group of people who's only crime is loving other people. Who cares if you're gay or strait, so long as you love who your with. Your fiancee is a jerk, no offense you sound like you are headed toward a life of misery with him.